By Monika
OK, So here's the thing... I LOVE to watch electronic sparring on Social Media... I swears I do! Shoot, I love to engage if there is an issue I am passionate about. I have done it many times... Like a BAWSE.. The Black Enterprise Article about How Working Black Women can't get a Man? Many beefs were started because of that and I was all over it... Celebrities resurrect their careers eBeefing and making up by the next award show or record release all things depending...
Although I do enjoy Beefs in the Social Network, The Social Network in my opinion, is either supposed to Be Fun, Entertaining or Informative. If you can't get a point across, what's the point right?
So I thought of some ways eBeefs can be more productive, entertaining and informative for the participants and the audience. I am guilty of many of these so I will try to be better when eBeefing:
1: Do You Even Have The Time For this: Its ridiculous for a participant to start a beef and then come back 5 hrs later thinking someone remembers what you were saying or who you were talking about. I remember discussing something (It wasn't beefing because I think we were just trying to get each other to understand), I left had a full day of activity and the person responded, like 7 hours later. By that time I had forgotten what we were even talking about.
2: Don't Go JackAss on Folks: The Worst thing you can do is have a bout of Jackassery and become completely disrespectful. For example: Dear Men, Stop stating how Bitter Women are (Which generally isn't true) to try to get your point across. Women aren't bitter because they disagree, they just don't agree. I see this a lot when the "Why Black Women Can't Get a Man" articles come out. Just stop it, OK? Good...
3: Don't come in from left field on other folks' eBeefs: I saw some dude this week go all on the 11th Hour in on a eBeef where he didn't belong in the nor was he needed. He was disruptive, Broke rule #2 and seemed generally uninformed and it showed. Its an indication that you readily go into things unprepared and shouldn't be relied upon.
4: Know that Celebrities will go In: Sometimes, we forget that before celebrities were supposedly "Above Some things," they had sharp tongues just like us... Recent pre-beefs with Yvette Nicole Brown and Chris Brown have shown that you going left on celebrities will get you the same response you give when someone goes left on you. They don't have to be "Above" these things. we aren't...
5: Remember that tomorrow is another day: eBeefs are awesome, but to extend frustration past the time of the actual eConvo will stress you out... Breathe, have some wine (or in my case, some Red Vines), and enjoy what's around you. In most cases, you will NEVER see that person in real life (IRL), and you can count that as a blessing.
M
OK, So here's the thing... I LOVE to watch electronic sparring on Social Media... I swears I do! Shoot, I love to engage if there is an issue I am passionate about. I have done it many times... Like a BAWSE.. The Black Enterprise Article about How Working Black Women can't get a Man? Many beefs were started because of that and I was all over it... Celebrities resurrect their careers eBeefing and making up by the next award show or record release all things depending...
Although I do enjoy Beefs in the Social Network, The Social Network in my opinion, is either supposed to Be Fun, Entertaining or Informative. If you can't get a point across, what's the point right?
So I thought of some ways eBeefs can be more productive, entertaining and informative for the participants and the audience. I am guilty of many of these so I will try to be better when eBeefing:
1: Do You Even Have The Time For this: Its ridiculous for a participant to start a beef and then come back 5 hrs later thinking someone remembers what you were saying or who you were talking about. I remember discussing something (It wasn't beefing because I think we were just trying to get each other to understand), I left had a full day of activity and the person responded, like 7 hours later. By that time I had forgotten what we were even talking about.
2: Don't Go JackAss on Folks: The Worst thing you can do is have a bout of Jackassery and become completely disrespectful. For example: Dear Men, Stop stating how Bitter Women are (Which generally isn't true) to try to get your point across. Women aren't bitter because they disagree, they just don't agree. I see this a lot when the "Why Black Women Can't Get a Man" articles come out. Just stop it, OK? Good...
3: Don't come in from left field on other folks' eBeefs: I saw some dude this week go all on the 11th Hour in on a eBeef where he didn't belong in the nor was he needed. He was disruptive, Broke rule #2 and seemed generally uninformed and it showed. Its an indication that you readily go into things unprepared and shouldn't be relied upon.
4: Know that Celebrities will go In: Sometimes, we forget that before celebrities were supposedly "Above Some things," they had sharp tongues just like us... Recent pre-beefs with Yvette Nicole Brown and Chris Brown have shown that you going left on celebrities will get you the same response you give when someone goes left on you. They don't have to be "Above" these things. we aren't...
5: Remember that tomorrow is another day: eBeefs are awesome, but to extend frustration past the time of the actual eConvo will stress you out... Breathe, have some wine (or in my case, some Red Vines), and enjoy what's around you. In most cases, you will NEVER see that person in real life (IRL), and you can count that as a blessing.
M
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